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Do’s and Don’ts When Your Child is Being Bullied

Always recommend talking openly with your children around subjects that can affect them as they are growing up. As bullying will affect up to 7 in 10 young people before they reach their 18th birthday, it is important to be prepared.

  • Always talk openly with young people about bullying so that they willingly share any concerns with you and it doesn’t become a ‘taboo’ subject
  • Listen carefully and show them that you have listened by talking it through

  • Don’t dismiss the bullying as “part of growing up” and to “ignore it”. This will only teach them to tolerate bullying behavior
  • Put any anger aside – it is vital to prioritize how THEY are feeling. If you feel you need support, then seek this out separately
  • Ask them what THEY want to do about it; it’s tempting to completely take over but this is very disempowering for young people and takes away control from them in a situation where they may already feel powerless
  • Regularly check in with them so you know what’s going on and to be sure they are happy with whatever action was decided upon
  • Make sure they do not feel excluded from any action that is taken. They may already feel worried about what is going to happen
  • Reassure them that it is NOT their fault. They did not do anything to ‘deserve’ being bullied
  • Remind them that it is the attitude and behavior of the perpetrator that is at fault
  • Try and be sympathetic towards the perpetrator; it is highly likely that they are experiencing serious issues of their own
  • Keep clear records of everything: Incidents, calls and visits to the school
  • Once you have reported the bullying, keep in regular contact with the school or college to ensure they are dealing with the situation

Credit Ditch The Label 

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